Frequently Asked Questions

What is self-care?

We define self care as intentional stewardship of your mind, body, and spirit; it addresses our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well being. It is an inside job that starts from within and permeates to the outside often having residual effects for the betterment of you and those in your surroundings. It is a time to just "Be".

Who needs self-care?

Everyone can live a balanced life including women and men, young and elderly, helping professionals like teachers, clergy, caregivers, and individuals, groups, and  students.

As an alternative form of therapy what makes self-care different from traditional counseling?

Self-care is a more holistic approach to therapy without the perceived stigma of traditional counseling methods. As a pastoral counselor and self care practitioner, Dr. Toni maintains confidentiality of all clients and her work is based on a client-centered approach. She does collaborate with other helping professionals, when needed.

What are the benefits of using a Pastoral Counselor?

A Pastoral Counselor provides non-judgmental and professional care and counseling through the integration of spirituality and psychology. Sessions are provided in a safe and sacred space to allow for a more conducive environment for releasing pain, letting go of negative thoughts and shedding the pain of the past and/or present in order to move forward toward healing, wholeness and hope.

The number of sessions required varies depending on the needs of the individual, however the counselor journeys with the client to address underlying concerns and focus on immediate solutions rather than long-term care. The average time for counseling is 4 to 6 sessions.

Why shouldn’t I try to just work through this on my own?

Often times we dismiss feelings of anxiety, emotional pain, or relationship conflict as “just life” – even to the point of encountering real difficulty in normal day-to-day functioning. We understand that caring for others at the expense of your own health can contribute to compassion fatigue, burnout and drop out. Major stressors like the death of a loved one, divorce and other life transitions; as well as over-functioning and having feelings of isolation can lead to an overwhelming sense of hopelessness. Over time, it takes a toll on your well-being and ability to effectively perform regular routine functions. Self-care addresses the whole person: mind, body and spirit; it is an empowering first step and act of courage. Also, it aids in putting you back in control and creating balance through establishing personal boundaries. Even this small action step of reaching out can have a surprisingly positive effect on your outlook!

What does self-care support provide?

Self-care individual sessions and support groups offers you the opportunity to share, to release and refocus so that you can gain new understanding and perspectives of the things within your control. Life can be hard at times, and difficult circumstances are sometimes beyond our control, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Self-care helps you first assess your own self-care needs, increase awareness and set achievable goals. It helps you get to the root cause of issues and learning techniques to support your well-being . You will be equipped to both regain control and practice healthy patterns for long-lasting improvement and renewal.

What happens in a self-care session?

Since each client's needs and goals is different, sessions vary in format and approach but always begin with understanding who you are and what it is you believe God has called you to be. Sometimes clients come with an agenda or specific things they’d like to talk about. Other times, people have a success story, an emotion that’s bothering them, or just a vague feeling or thought they can’t shake. Sessions progress based on the needs of the client at the time, but active participation and collaboration is important through the process.

In addition to in-session discussions and activities, we may encourage outside activities or assignments that we will discuss later (like reading a book, journaling, letter writing, or creating a vision list). Ultimately, the goal is to identify the areas where change or help is needed, set realistic objectives, and to equip you with resources and strategies for both short-term and long-term success.

Do I have to share things I don’t want to?

Trust is paramount; it is important to build a trusting relationship for real progress to take place. Sessions will move at a pace that you feel comfortable yet challenge you to face the reality of your current circumstances and move forward. We understand that certain topics or stories may be difficult to share, and that’s normal and OK. You don’t have to share anything you don’t want to, or that makes you uncomfortable. Your "voice" matters.

How long does it take?

Because self-care as alternative form of traditional therapy is tailored to a specific person or group, and the goals and challenges are different, there is no pre-defined period of time for on-going sessions. Sometimes incredible progress is made in hours, but it’s not uncommon for greater self-care awareness and support to span several sessions over a period of weeks or even months. Individual self-care sessions are generally about 50-60 minutes in length unless extended sessions are requested. However, greater consistency is achieved with our 3 month and 6 month programs.

Is this covered by my insurance?

No, however, we can arrange a payment schedule for your budget, if needed. 

What if I need to cancel my appointment?

Appointments are paid in advance online for the initial intake.  Appointments after your assessment may be paid online or in the office at the time service is rendered. If you need to cancel your appointment, please contact us at least 24 hours in advance of your session. Sessions canceled with less than 24 hours notice will not be refunded or will be billed with payment expected before your next scheduled appointment.

Are self-care sessions confidential?

Absolutely, yes. Your privacy is important to us at Take Care With Self Care, and you can trust that our sessions, as well as any of your personal information, is always held in the strictest of confidence.  Additionally, anything you transmit over our website or sessions via video conferencing is highly secured, and HIPAA-compliant.

Confidential information disclosed in private therapy sessions is legally protected. However, there are some exceptions to this, including instances of suspected child or elder abuse, or when a client presents a serious danger of violence toward himself or herself or another person. If you’d like to learn more about our ethical standards and privileged communication exceptions, our office can provide additional information.